Style Etiquette: Cocktails

Cocktails exist in a kind of social limbo. Neither a day nor night-time event, it's sometimes a business affair and at other times it's purely social. And when it's business masquerading as a social soiree - forget it. It poses more chances for nasty stings than a bees' nest.

Adding to the confusion, cocktails are often a precursor to the main event. But, we're not going to worry about that here. When it's strictly cocktails what's the best choice?

A black dress is de rigueur. Length can vary depending on whether it's business or pleasure. For the former, keep it to no more than three inches above the knee. At the other end of the leg, a dress or skirt that stops anywhere above the ankles is a good bet for cocktails; longer and you're dressed for a semi-formal or formal event.

There is an exception. If the dress or skirt in question is a fashion statement not an eveningwear declaration, ankle-length is acceptable. Summery dresses that say, tea party rather than black tie, fit into this category.

Color choices are broad and sparkle is always welcome.

Expanding your idea of cocktail style will take the stress out of what to wear. A pair of basic black pants in wool, jersey or velvet, is a smart start to an alternate look. Add a sexy, cowl-neck top in chiffon or metallic jersey, a pair of strappy, black stilettos or cute, dressy flats.

If serious business is at hand, a fitted jacket in a jewel tone like ruby or in black covers all bases. Also try a boat-neck, jersey blouse or soft, wrap top a la Diane von Furstenberg.

Men are safe with a sports-jacket-and-slacks combo. However, a dressier approach- is welcome. With the exception of hardcore business cocktails - say, cocktails before a business seminar - do not wear the exact same suit, shirt and tie that you wore to work. Remove the tie or substitute a silk, knit shirt for workplace button-down shirt and tie.

Jazz up a suit with a pastel shirt and pastel tie. Heck, skip the tie all together and experiment with a printed or colorful, striped woven shirt.

It's not unusual for cocktails to be held outdoors on a rooftop garden, by a hotel pool and so on. For men, it's easy, a jacket - preferably a 2-button or 3-button. A pullover sweater may already be part of cocktail dress. For a woman, cool nights call for a chic cover up like a fur shrug or a capelet in wool or satin. Drape a large scarf or a huge swath of gorgeous fabric around your shoulders for a touch of glamour.

A small fitted cardigan is fantastic with a full skirt or over a vintage-style dress. Add a jeweled or flowered brooch for extra interest.

Make jewelry a reliable part of your wardrobe. However, avoid the goosy idea that jewelry alone will miraculously transform an outfit from work to cocktails. Not true. You must have a festive outfit together, and then accessories can do the job of brightening.