Style Etiquette: Meeting the Parents

It's an interview; don't let anyone tell you differently. Apply the dressing-for-a-job-interview rules (and don't forget your antiperspirant). Rule #1, plan ahead, think about what you're going to wear beforehand. It will save you from mistakes that you might regret later.

Remember, by definition, parents are conservative. Even the most freewheeling adults square up when it comes to their kids. Mick Jagger is as much the protective father to his grown daughters, Jade and Elizabeth, as George Bush is to Barbara and Jenna.

Don't forget, how you dress can communicate respect or an absence of same. Sweaty basketball shorts, dirty sneakers and a muscle T say, "I really don't care what you think." And, girls, a revealing camisole and Daisy Dukes don't exactly telegraph thoughtfulness either. Mum or Dad might just conclude that you have bad judgment.

Be careful, though, not to swing too far in the other direction. Male or female, a suit can be just as offensive as those sweaty basketball shorts. It's too buttoned up and overdone for the occasion. In addition, if you haven't worn a suit recently, you're not going to be comfortable.

Instead, try dark jeans, or a washed but not too worn version paired with a pressed cotton shirt. The combination is a good middle ground. Khakis, too, worn with a polo shirt and leather shoes, never fail to make a good impression.

Women might consider the polish of pairing a tailored print shirt with casual pants, either flared or cropped. A simple skirt and knit top can be another chic option. So, to summarize: