Style Etiquette: Wedding Guest

Do I have to say it? Anything that even hints at competing with the bride is a no-no. This means no white. Black, on the other hand, is perfectly acceptable, whether the nuptials take place at dusk or dawn. Caveat: Different cultures have different traditions. If you are attending an ethnic or non-traditional wedding, be sure to do a little research before choosing your outfit.

Now, this is important: If you wear shoes dyed to match your dress, you're going to look like you lost the bridesmaid's party somewhere - even if you're wearing a different color. So don't.

A pretty dress, complementing shoes and well-chosen jewelry are all you need to look appropriate by day. Save the heavy artillery - heaping diamond necklaces, if you must, cocktail rings and ice-cube earrings -- for evening. And, keep in mind, no matter the time of day, weddings seem to call for a small handbag.

If you choose to wear a suit, there are rules here, too. While I have nothing against pantsuits, a skirt suit is more appropriate and will take you seamlessly from church to reception.

When it comes to dressing for a wedding, it may appear that men have it easy: rent a tux and call it a day. Well, call it a bad day, then. The offerings at many rental stores look like something you wore to your prom. Shouldn't that tell you everything?

This is not to say a tuxedo is out of the question. If you do go that route, though, shop carefully and thoroughly. Whether searching for a tux or a suit, look for wool or a wool blend. Avoid polyester and other synthetics, and remember, ruffled shirts under tuxedos or suit jackets are cool for twenty-somethings or younger. Mature men should avoid them.