Table Of ContentContents Foreword by Peter Block ix Preface xvii Introduction: How to Work with People You Don't Agree with or Like or Trust 1 1: Collaboration Is Becoming More Necessary and More Difficult 5 "I could never work with those people!" 5 The enemyfying syndrome 7 The central challenge of collaboration 9 2: Collaboration Is Not the Only Option 11 The way forward is unclear 12 "The miraculous option is that we work thingsthrough together" 12 There are three alternatives to collaboration 15 Collaboration must be a choice 18 3: Conventional, Constricted Collaboration Is Becoming Obsolete 25 Constriction prevents movement 25 Change management assumes control 26 "There is only one right answer" 29 The limitations of conventional collaboration 31 4: Unconventional, Stretch Collaboration Is Becoming Essential 39 Stretching creates flexibility and discomfort 39 How to end a civil war 41 Stretch collaboration abandons the illusion of control 46 5: The First Stretch Is to Embrace Conflict and Connection 49 Dialogue is not enough 49 There is more than one whole 55 Every holon has two drives 59 Alternate power and love 61 6: The Second Stretch Is to Experiment Way A Way Forward 69 We cannot control the future, but we can influence it 69 We are crossing the river by feeling for stones 75 Creativity requires negative capability 80 Listen for possibility rather than for certainty 82 7: The Third Stretch Is to Step into the Game 89 "They need to change!" 90 If you're not part of the problem, you can't bepart of the solution 93 Be a pig rather than a chicken 96 Conclusion: How to Learn to Stretch 99 Notes 109 Acknowledgments 115 Index 118 About the Author 126 About Reos Partners 128 A Note from the Artist, Jeff Barnum 130
SynopsisCollaboration is increasingly difficult and increasingly necessary Often, to get something done that really matters to us, we need to work with people we don't agree with or like or trust. Adam Kahane has faced this challenge many times, working on big issues like democracy and jobs and climate change and on everyday issues in organizations and families. He has learned that our conventional understanding of collaboration--that it requires a harmonious team that agrees on where it's going, how it's going to get there, and who needs to do what--is wrong. Instead, we need a new approach to collaboration that embraces discord, experimentation, and genuine cocreation--which is exactly what Kahane provides in this groundbreaking and timely book., "Adam Kahane worked with us on the future of our country. The four scenarios we built have come to life one after another, and today we are living the best one....Kahane explains how scenario planning can transform the future. In Colombia we can attest that such transformation is really possible." -Juan Manuel Santos, President of Colombia and Nobel Peace Prize recipient Collaboration is increasingly difficult and increasingly necessary. Often, to get something done that really matters to us, we need to work with people we don't agree with or like or trust. Adam Kahane has faced this challenge many times, working on big issues like democracy and jobs and climate change and on everyday issues in organizations and families. He has learned that our conventional understanding of collaboration-that it requires a harmonious team that agrees on where it's going, how it's going to get there, and who needs to do what-is wrong. Instead, we need a new approach to collaboration that embraces discord, experimentation, and genuine cocreation-which is exactly what Kahane provides in this groundbreaking and timely book. "Kahane shows that people who don't see eye-to-eye really can come together to solve big challenges. Whether in our businesses, our governments, our communities, or our personal lives, we can all benefit from this smart and timely book." -Mark Tercek, former President, The Nature Conservancy and coauthor of Nature's Fortune "Shows us how thinking and seeing differently can help us navigate this challenging landscape. Kahane abandons orthodoxy in taking on the most intransigent problems, showing us the path to effective action in a complex world." -James Gimian, coauthor of The Rules of Victory " Collaborating with the Enemy belongs on the same shelf as Sun Tzu's The Art of War and Machiavelli's The Prince ." -Stephen Huddart, President, The J.W. McConnell Family Foundation, International consultant Adam Kahane, who has worked in some very fraught contexts in his career, has found that in low-control, high-conflict situations, everything we think we know about what makes collaboration work is wrong. In this very timely book he takes on five misunderstandings that keep us from effectively collaborating with ""those people"" and tells us what we should do instead., "Offers practical guidance for how to work with diverse others, which is a precondition for confronting many of the complex challenges we face." --Morris Rosenberg, President, Pierre Elliott Trudeau Foundation Collaboration is increasingly difficult and increasingly necessary. Often, to get something done that really matters to us, we need to work with people we don't agree with or like or trust. Adam Kahane has faced this challenge many times, working on big issues like democracy and jobs and climate change and on everyday issues in organizations and families. He has learned that our conventional understanding of collaboration--that it requires a harmonious team that agrees on where it's going, how it's going to get there, and who needs to do what--is wrong. Instead, we need a new approach to collaboration that embraces discord, experimentation, and genuine cocreation--which is exactly what Kahane provides in this groundbreaking and timely book. "Kahane shows that people who don't see eye-to-eye really can come together to solve big challenges. Whether in our businesses, our governments, our communities, or our personal lives, we can all benefit from this smart and timely book." --Mark Tercek, former President, The Nature Conservancy and coauthor of Nature's Fortune "Shows us how thinking and seeing differently can help us navigate this challenging landscape. Kahane abandons orthodoxy in taking on the most intransigent problems, showing us the path to effective action in a complex world." --James Gimian, coauthor of The Rules of Victory " Collaborating with the Enemy belongs on the same shelf as Sun Tzu's The Art of War and Machiavelli's The Prince ." --Stephen Huddart, President, The J.W. McConnell Family Foundation